How I Stopped Asking Myself Whether People Don’t Like Me


All of us worry about likeability to some extent. It is perfectly natural to want people to like us and that we would want to try and make sure that they do. But at a certain point, worrying about how people feel about you becomes something that holds you back. You will never get anywhere if you start second-guessing every decision based on how popular (or unpopular) it will make you. At a certain point, you need to stop asking yourself whether people don’t like you and focus on how you feel about yourself. I had these issues once, and here is how I fixed my problem.

Be Confident In Myself

Being confident can be easier said than done, but self-confidence is a huge part of getting over this issue. If you are confident in yourself and your abilities, you will be able to put aside the question of whether you are likable or not. Instead of asking whether making a decision is something people will like, ask yourself if you are happy with it. Is it the right decision for the situation, and will it have the outcome you want? Be confident in your ability to make these decisions; you will worry less about how likable they make you.

Work On Communication

Worrying about likeability often comes from not knowing how people feel about you. Of course, it is essential to avoid doing things like asking people whether they like you or not. But if you are open and honest about how you feel and why you are making a business decision, for example, you see that people react in kind. If they can see that you are open to hearing their point of view, they will be happy to explain how they feel about a situation. If you are wondering, “why don’t people like me?” and feeling like you can’t communicate as well as you should, the online training provider ZandaX has a likability test that will help you get to the bottom of this issue. They also offer a course to help you work on your professional relationships.

Focus On What Is Important

Anxiety is often one of the main contributing factors when you worry about whether people like you. When we’re stressed and anxious, our brains look for reasons. So we worry about things, from whether we left the cooker on when we left the house to whether we should have phrased something differently to a coworker. If you feel your anxiety is getting the better of you, you may be at risk of burnout. Remember that if you listen to those around you, clearly explain your feelings and decision-making, and are conscientious and kind, you are already doing what you can for others. It would help if you remembered that your health and happiness are important too. So try to take some more time for yourself during the day and leave your work worries at the office.

Round Up

These are the priorities I established in my own journey, and they worked for me. I hope they do the same for you.

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